My lady parts are parched, so intimacy has been painful. What kind of lubricant should I use?

What you’re experiencing is, unfortunately, pretty common in midlife. Comfortable vaginal intercourse requires vaginal lubrication. In menopause, and even before, many of us can’t count on producing enough lubrication when we need it, thanks to hormonal changes. Lubricants can pick up where Mother Nature has left off and make intimacy enjoyable again.

Lubricants can pick up where Mother Nature has left off and make intimacy enjoyable again.

There are several types of lubricants. Finding the right one for your body and preferences may take some experimentation. For the vagina, a water-based lube is always a healthy choice. Many water-based lubes contain glycerin, with which many of us have no problem. But if you’re prone to yeast infections, a glycerin-free lube will likely be a better choice for you.

Silicone-based lubes are long-lasting and work well under water. Just remember they shouldn’t be used with silicone toys because they degrade the toy’s surface. Because silicone toys are usually the pricier ones, you’ll want to remember this rule if you own a nice vibrator. Also remember that silicone lubes never dry out. You’ll need warm water and soap to remove them from your skin. It can take some time for your vagina to eliminate silicone.

Petroleum-derived oils and oil-based lubes should never be used as a vaginal lubricant. They will change the pH of the vagina, encouraging bacterial growth. Oils will also break down latex condoms.

Finding the right lubricant for your body and your preferences may take some experimentation. A kit of samples of different lubricants means you can try out several. Finding the right one can turn your sex life around, so it’s worth a little time and effort!